As Valentines Day approaches, I have been reflecting on its origins, and love in all its guises. The origin of Valentines Day is an ancient rite going as far back as the Roman times, containing elements of Roman and Christian tradition. One version is that Valentine continued to secretly perform marriage for young lovers when Emperor Claudius II, in third century Rome, outlawed marriage for single men, deciding they made better soldiers. Another version is that Valentine helped Christians escape cruel, tortuous Roman prisons. Others claim Valentines Day is linked to the pagan fertility festival of Lupercalia.
It was in the Middle Ages, in France and England, when 14th February became associated with the start of the birds mating season. The English poet Geoffrey Chaucer was the first to record St. Valentine’s Day as a day of romantic celebration in his 1375 poem “Parliament of Fowls,” writing, “For this was sent on Seynt Valentyne’s day / Whan every foul cometh ther to choose his mate.”
The first written Valentine appeared in1415 written by Charles, Duke of Orleans, to his wife while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt. From the 17th century Valentines Day grew in popularity with America introducing mass produced cards in the 1840s. It is now a widely celebrate day of love.
The theme running through its history is that of connection, love for others. It is so much more than flowers and chocolates. It’s in the simple everyday things we do for others. For example, the cup of tea made just how they like it, it’s the reminder to take their medication, its attending school plays, hospital appointments, graduations, preparing favourite food, just ‘being’ there for someone.
Valentines Day can be difficult for those who have experienced loss including bereavement of loved ones and pets, anticipatory grief and the loss of relationships. Loving someone can be painful, especially when they are no longer with us. Whatever you do today show yourself the same love, compassion and kindness you show others. Celebrate, or not, in a way that brings you comfort and peace.
#compassion #selfcare
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